Why is my husband losing weight faster than me? (And what to do about it)

True or false: I can diet like a man and get results forever.

False.
You aren’t just a “little man” and your body isn’t just a “smaller version” of his.

You’re a woman.
Your hormones fluctuate differently.
Your hormones are produced differently.
Your life likely looks different from him on social and psychological levels, too.

That’s why you see him getting results and you’re stuck frustrated on why you’re not changing.

That is why so many women get frustrated when they see their man seeing dramatic results after one week and they look in the mirror and think…
“WTF?! We’re doing the same thing- why is he seeing so much progress when I’m not???”

Your body & life IS different, so your body NEEDS different.
The keto, super low calorie, restrict-a-shit-ton-diet may work for him.
But it very well may be the worst thing that you could possibly do.

Are we saying that women can’t lose weight or progress? No.
Are we saying it looks *drastically* different and we need to be changing every detail of your life in order to make progress? No.
Are we saying you just need to *diet harder?* Hell no.

But we ARE saying there are reasons – biological, psychological, & social mentioned in the slides- that play a role into why your game plan might need to look different from your husband, brother, boyfriend, etc.

But you CAN still progress.

Let’s talk about WHY this is.

I think there’s this misconception around the biological differences between male and female bodies. There’s this notion that if we say or talk about how women’s bodies are in fact biologically different than male’s bodies, we’re automatically insinuating that women’s bodies are less than mens‘.

But I promise you- we are not. Saying that men and women are biologically different doesn’t make one or the other better or worse (although, I’d argue women’s physiology is a bit more fascinating because of its’ complexities).

Here’s the facts: men & women respond differently to various nutrition and training stimuli for a combination of physical/biological factors, psychological factors, and social factors.

Let’s talk about just a few of them.

A Few Physiological Reasons…

  • Women usually have lower testosterone levels, which leads to less muscle mass. Since muscle mass is a large driver of our metabolism, less testosterone -> less muscle -> lower metabolic rate in women by around 3-10%. More on this here.
  • On the flip side, women with too much testosterone can develop PCOS (6-12% of females), which leads to insulin resistance & a difficulty using carbohydrates, and in turn, often to weight gain (CDC, 2020)
  • Women tend to have more difficulty with adequate sleep quality- and we know, sleep is a foundation for progress! (Mong, Cusmano, 2016)
  • Estrogen drives leptin- the hunger hormone- production, so women tend to have higher levels of leptin and be more physiologically sensitive to feelings of hunger (Shi, H. 2011)

A Few Psycho-Social Reasons…

  • Women disproportionately serve as caregivers (around 75%) and spend as much as 50% more time providing care than men, causing them to, on average, have less time & energy to devote to their health & fitness (Institute on Aging, 2016)
  • Women have higher rates of body dissatisfaction (which leads to more stress, and we know stress has a huge effect on progress (Quittkat et al, 2019)
  • Women are more frequently marketed to with extreme & unhelpful forms of “healthy lifestyles” and weight loss plans that often cause more harm in the long-run.

So yeah, he may have an “easier” time or see results faster in his health & fitness pursuits.
But that doesn’t mean you can’t do it.

You just have to learn how to work with your body & for your body.

Meet the Strong Women Method.

We’ve coached hundreds of women with KML Movement Online Coaching– many of which have tried dieting with their husband, boyfriend, or brother, to no avail, but to lots of frustration- with our Strong Women Method. It’s not complicated and it’s nothing fancy.

It doesn’t require cutting out carbs. It doesn’t need you to do hours of cardio. And it sure as hell doesn’t pretend you should just *diet harder*.

Our StrongWomen Method is simple:

Fueled Bodies.

Heavy Lifting.

Consistent Effort.

Female-Focused Mentality.

You’ve been sold the idea that eating less = better… but that’s bs. Your body need & thrives off of being fueled well- given enough food, good food, & food that you actually enjoy eating.

the approach that worked for your favorite trainer might not be the one that works for you- which is why we’ll teach you how to fuel well for YOUR body & your goals. From dieting phases to building phases, & everything in between, we’ll walk you through doing it right for life.

If you haven’t gotten the results you want from circuits, cardio sessions, & high-rep workouts, we have good news: it’s not you. It’s your program.

To make real progress, you need a structured & progressive training program that uses weight that will actually challenge you. Women tend to underestimate their strength- but we want to help you realize your body’s potential & capabilities through heavy lifting and quality programming.

if you’ve ever gone “all-in” on a 30 day program only to fall off the wagon on day 10 (or gain all the weight back the next 30 days)? It’s time to ditch the all-or-nothing mentality.

Self-confidence is built when you keep your own promises. you have to show up imperfectly but consistently, because being growth-minded means that you choose growth over comfort and effort over easy. We want to help you build that self-confidence with accountability, community, and addressing your limiting beliefs.

Your efforts to work towards health goals should make you healthier- not frustrated, unsatisfied, and unhappy with your own body. It is possible to work WITH your body & for your health if we know how to do so.

You are not just a “little man” who’s body responds the same way than men’s bodies’ do. we want to help you learn about what actually going on you your body- because when it comes to your hormones, your cycle, & your unique female physiology, you deserve to work towards both short & long-term goals that actually improves your health.

Check out our Instagram below if you’re ready to figure this out for yourself once and for all. You deserve to feel good in your body again.

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